It’s true! FINDOM isn’t what it used to be…
I've seen firsthand how much the landscape has changed. There was a time when the findom community was filled with genuine power exchanges, thrilling connections, and subs and Dom/mes who truly understood the dynamic. But in recent years, it feels like the scene has shifted. It’s no longer just about the kink,it’s become a race to the bottom, with more scammers, fake subs, and fast-money grabbers than ever before.
I hear this frustration from fellow Dommes all the time, and it's clear that many of us are struggling to find the same level of authenticity and excitement that used to define the findom world. So, let’s talk about this shift and how we can keep the essence of financial domination alive, without getting caught up in the negativity.
The Rise of Scammers and Fake Subs
One of the biggest issues many of us are facing today is the influx of scammers. As findom has grown in popularity, more people are trying to get in on the action without truly understanding the dynamic. You’ll come across "subs" who try to bait you into sending free content or acting like they’re willing to serve, only to turn out to be fakes looking for a quick handout. I feel I NEVER experienced this to this extend IRL.
It’s frustrating, to say the least. It can make you question whether there are any genuine submissives left in the scene, online anyway. But let’s take a step back and remind ourselves: there are still real, committed subs out there. The rise of scammers doesn’t mean the essence of financial domination is dead, it just means we have to be more discerning and selective about who we engage with.
The Shift in Domme Mindset
Another factor in this changing dynamic is the rise of newer Dommes who aren’t necessarily interested in the power dynamics that define financial domination. Instead, many seem more focused on making a quick profit. While it’s totally valid to run this as a business, turning your pleasure into profit, findom, at its core, is about much more than just making money—it’s about power, control, and the thrill of a true power exchange.
Sadly, this shift has led to a decrease in standards. Some new Dommes don’t take the time to understand the importance of boundaries, consent, and the emotional connection that should come with financial submission. For many, it’s just about the money. And while there’s nothing wrong with being financially successful, we must remember that ethical findom should be built on mutual respect, trust, and emotional investment in the dynamic.
Why We Can’t Let Go of Our Standards
If you’ve been in this scene for any amount of time, you know that findom isn’t just about getting tributes,it’s about the thrill of the power exchange, the way it feels to dominate someone who trusts you with their money, and the satisfaction of knowing you’re making someone’s submission meaningful. If you lose that authenticity, you lose what makes this kink so exciting and rewarding.
It’s more important than ever to stick to your standards and refuse to settle for anything less than what you deserve. Setting boundaries and holding yourself to high expectations will help you maintain the integrity of your brand and attract the right subs! those who truly understand and respect the power dynamic.
The Future of Findom: It’s Still About Connection
Despite the rise of fake subs and the “quick cash” mentality from some newer Dommes, I truly believe there’s still a place for quality, ethical findom. It’s just up to us to protect the integrity of the scene and lead by example. Focus on creating genuine connections with subs who respect and value the kink, and take the time to find those who are really committed to the power dynamic.
I’ve seen it time and time again: when you set the tone for your interactions, when you stay true to your brand, your craft, your art, and when you hold yourself to high standards, the right subs will find you. It’s all about creating an environment where both Domme and sub can thrive in a mutually respectful and fulfilling exchange.
What Can We Do as Dommes?
Set High Standards: Don’t settle for anything less than the type of submission you want to experience. You deserve a sub who truly respects the dynamic, not someone looking for a free handout.
Vet Your Subs Carefully: In today’s world, it’s more important than ever to thoroughly vet subs and make sure they’re truly committed to serving you. If they don’t meet your standards, move on. There’s no shame in that.
Focus on Your Brand: Now is the perfect time to revisit your brand and ensure it reflects your true values. Create content that excites you and aligns with your vision, and don’t get discouraged by the noise in the industry.
Educate Your Community: Remind your followers that findom is about power, trust, and respect. Set expectations early and make sure everyone knows what’s expected in your dynamic.
While the scene has definitely changed, it’s important to remember that we are the ones who shape it. The true spirit of findom isn’t dead… it just needs more Dommes who are willing to uphold the values of respect, power, and authenticity. Stick to your standards, focus on the connections that matter, and know that the right subs will always recognise and appreciate your strength.
We’ve seen the ups and downs before, and we’ll weather this storm as well. Keep your head high, stay focused on your craft, and never lose sight of the power you possess. There are real submissives out there, so let’s keep our scene strong and thriving by staying true to what makes findom so unique and thrilling.