Who I Will (and Won’t) Mentor – The Truth About Earning My Time

Every day, my inbox fills with messages from women who want me to hand them the keys to my empire. Some try to flatter me, some try to guilt me, and others just outright expect me to pour a decade of experience into their lap for nothing.

Here’s the truth: I don’t mentor just anyone.

Findom (and FemDom) isn’t a trend, a quick cash grab, or a magic shortcut to easy money. It’s a skill, a craft, and an art that requires intelligence, effort, and strategy. It’s something I have dedicated years to mastering, building a reputation and business that has made me one of the best, first in person and now online.

And I don’t waste my time on women who expect to be spoon-fed success.

Who I Don’t Waste My Time On

🚫 The Lazy & Entitled – If your first message to me is a sob story about how you have no money, no job, and your “dream is to be mean to men for money” while puffing on a vape and complaining that you can’t afford baby formula, I can already tell you: I’m not the mentor for you.

🚫 The TikTok & InstaDommes – The ones who jump into Findom expecting instant success, copying recycled scripts, and throwing “PAY ME” into a post with zero strategy. They don’t care about actual domination—just attention and easy cash. They’re the same ones who make more money selling half-baked “Findom guides” than actually practicing Findom. If you fall into that crowd, don’t even ask. However, if you accidentally fell into that but are ready to put in the work and start over fresh? Yes. Do reach out for my help!

🚫 The Freebie Hunters – If you can’t be bothered to support me in any way—won’t follow me, won’t engage with my content, won’t invest a dime into my time—but expect me to drop everything and personally guide you to success, you are not worth my energy. No thank-you.

🚫 The Unwilling to Work – If you think being a Findomme/Dominatrix is just about posting a few tweets and waiting for the money to roll in, you’re already set up to fail. I have spent years refining my brand, my marketing, my psychological tactics—if you aren’t willing to put in real effort, you’re wasting everyone’s time, especially your own.

Who I Will Mentor

💎 Those Who Respect My Time – If you show me you understand that mentorship isn’t free, that my time is valuable, and that you’re willing to give before you take, I am far more likely to offer guidance. Send a coffee with your question. Acknowledge that real mentorship comes at a cost. That’s how professionals operate.

💎 The Women Who Show Up – If you’re consistently engaging with my content, supporting my work, sharing my posts, and actually making yourself visible, I notice. And I reward the ones who show loyalty and effort.

💎 The Dommes Who Are Already Putting in the Work – I have immense respect for women who are already great at what they do but struggle with visibility or marketing. If I can see that you are genuinely putting in the effort and just need a strategic push, I am far more likely to help.

💎 Those Who Take Initiative – If you come to me having already done research, having already started building something, proving that you’re serious? That gets my attention. I don’t mentor beginners who expect to be spoon-fed. I mentor women who are already moving forward and just need the right guidance to go further.

The Reality of Mentorship

I have spent a decade refining my craft, learning the psychology of submission, mastering marketing, and turning Femdom & Findom into something that is not just profitable, but powerful.

I didn’t get here by begging for shortcuts. And I refuse to hand my knowledge to women who think they’re entitled to it for nothing.

If you’re serious about succeeding in this industry, ask yourself:

🔹 Have you invested in yourself?
🔹 Have you shown respect for those who came before you?
🔹 Are you already putting in effort—or just hoping someone else will do the hard part for you?

Because the Dommes who get my time? They’ve already proven they deserve it.